The feeling of love is like an ocean wave. It comes, then it goes, then it comes again. This goes for love in general, not just romantic love. We sometimes love our partners, sometimes we’re too preoccupied, sometimes we love our friends, sometimes they disappoint us, sometimes we love our children, sometimes we get too exhausted to see them as perfect humans, sometimes we love ourselves and sometimes we don’t.
A story from Stephen R. Covey got to me the other day. It’s about a man who felt he no longer loved his wife nor was loved in return.
“Love her,” he told the man.
“I told you, the feeling just isn’t there anymore,” the man replied.
“Love her,” Covey replied.
“You don’t understand. The feeling of love just ins’t there,” repeated the man.
“Then love her. If the feeling isn’t there, that’s a good reason to love her.”
“But how do you love when you do not love?” asked the man.
Covey replied: “My friend, love is a verb. Love—the feeling—is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?”
Love is a conscious commitment. A daily, even an hourly commitment.
Now, what if we grew up not knowing what love looks like. A love without judgement, conditions, emotional rollercoasters. Anodea Judith, a clinical psychologist uses fantasy as a way to discovering what real love would feel like.
“Soak your cells in this feeling. Reprogram the body with this nourishment.”
…”begin this fantasy imagining ourselves at a young age and gradually growing up with this feeling present. How would it have felt at three years old to have had this kind of support and love? How would it have felt to go to school if you had had this kind of love? How would it have felt going through puberty? Would you walk, talk, or reach out differently? What would college have been like? How would your marriage or your relationship to your children be different?”
Fantasize with me today. Hold her hand. Love her.
the reds collection is here
THE REDS. These are a lip hybrid perfection. Opaque and buildable enough to be a lipstick, glossy enough to be a stain. A light glossy coat or a full color [without running] if you scoop some up with your finger or a spatula. Either way, they are soft, non-sticky and perform all day long.
Treat lips with the moisture of a balm, the coverage of a lipstick, and the glow of a gloss. With shades ranging from subtle to statement, there’s a Lip Boost for every mood. Glam your pout with Gressa Lip Boost. Light, non-sticky and moisturizing, it feels like a balm yet looks like a gloss.
Presented in a black box, this makes a perfect gift for yourself or someone else.
Wear alone or over any lip color of your preference. Double as a blush.
*Ricinus Communis (Castor) Seed Oil, *Copernicia Cerifera (Carnauba) Wax, Cocoa Butter, *Butyrospermum parkii (Shea) Butter, Magnifera Indica (Mango) Butter, [+/- Titanium Dioxide CI 77891, Iron Oxides (CI 77491, CI 77492, CI 77499), Mica CI 77019, Manganese Violet (Pigment Violet 16), CI 16035 (Red 40), CI 15850 (Red 7)]. *Ingredients from Organic farming.
AUX ROUGE - “The red”. Classic statement of strength and sensuality. Your own feminine signature.
NANCY- Carrot Red
REGAL - A deep dark crimson, warm and voluptuous. Suitable for a queen.
SARAI - a sheer glossy shade of subtlety-kissed lips, perfect for daily wear.
14 colors available